How to Set Healthy Boundaries & Build Positive Relationships (2023)

How to Set Healthy Boundaries & Build Positive Relationships (1)Healthy boundaries define what is appropriate behavior in our relationships – behavior that keeps both parties safe.

And setting healthy boundaries is crucial for self-care and positive relationships.

But let’s first understand what boundaries are.

Boundaries differ from person to person and are mediated by variations in culture, personality, and social context. Boundaries appropriate in a business meeting would seem irrelevant in a nightclub with old friends! Setting boundaries defines our expectations of ourselves and others in different kinds of relationships.

Below, we will examine definitions of relationship boundaries, how to set healthy boundaries, the different types of boundaries, and how to establish healthy boundaries in different contexts. We review the New York Times bestseller “Set Boundaries, Find Peace”.

In addition, we offer thesefree Positive Relationships PDF worksheetsto help your clients define and set healthy boundaries—essential for healthy relationships.

This Article Contains:

  • What Are Boundaries?
  • How to Set Healthy Boundaries
  • Examples of Healthy Boundaries
  • Personal and Emotional Boundaries
  • Boundaries in Psychology
  • Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Review
  • 7 Healthy Boundaries Worksheets (PDFs)
  • Positive Relationship Resources
  • A Take-Home Message
  • References

What Are Boundaries?

Let’s define boundaries. Put simply:

“A boundary is a limit or edge that defines you as separate from others”

(Katherine, 2010, p. 14).

Our skin is an obvious physical boundary, but we have other kinds ofinterpersonalboundaries too, including a limit that extends beyond our body.

Consider what happens when somebody stands too close for comfort. We often describe it as someone invading our personal space, but definitions of personal space vary according to culture, the type of relationship involved, and social context.

Comfortable boundaries with your partner at home, would not be appropriate in a different social context, such as attending a business dinner together.

Similarly, the level of physical intimacy deemed appropriate for expression in public spaces varies wildly across cultures.

When I lived in Sri Lanka, it was customary for children to greet their parents by touching their feet rather than hugging them. Meanwhile, touching, hugging, and kissing between married couples was frowned upon in public.

However, in the UK, hugging and kissing in public is acceptable, and embraces between friends, partners, and family members are deemed appropriate in shared public spaces.

Having said that, we all have friends or family members who are personally uncomfortable with hugging in any situation other than in private with their partner. Each individual is different.

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So, in summary, a relationship boundary is an interpersonal limit that is mediated by variations in personality, culture, and social context.

How to Set Healthy Boundaries

Setting healthy boundaries requiresself-awareness. We need to be clear about our expectations of ourselves and others, and what we are and are not comfortable with in specific situations. Setting healthy boundaries requires goodcommunication skillsthat convey assertiveness and clarity.

Assertivenessinvolves expressing your feelings openly and respectfully. It does not entail making demands, but it requires people to listen to you. Setting healthy boundaries requires you to assert your needs and priorities as a form of self-care. Tawwab outlines three easy steps to setting healthy boundaries:

Step 1. Be as clear and as straightforward as possible. Do not raise your voice.
Step 2. State your need or request directly in terms of what you’d like, rather than what you don’t want or like.
Step 3. Accept any discomfort that arises as a result, whether it’s guilt, shame, or remorse.

The third step is common for people with poor boundaries,codependencyissues, or are people pleasers.

Sometimes, adults have been raised by childhood carers who’ve taught them that expressing their needs is bad and selfish. However, not accepting the discomfort that comes from setting healthy boundaries in adulthood means settling for unhealthy relationships that can cause resentment, manipulation, and abuse.

Examples of Healthy Boundaries

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Examples of healthy boundaries include:

  • Declining anything you don’t want to do
  • Expressing your feelings responsibly
  • Talking about your experiences honestly
  • Replying in the moment
  • Addressing problems directly with the person involved, rather than with a third party
  • Making your expectations clear rather than assuming people will figure them out.

Setting healthy boundaries also requires an awareness of different boundaries involved in relationships, as illustrated in our ‘7 Types of Boundaries’ diagram below.

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Personal and Emotional Boundaries

In this section, we will look at personal and emotional boundaries. In the diagram above, personal boundaries refer to all seven types of boundaries that affect our personal wellbeing.

When we maintain healthy boundaries in all seven domains we will thrive, but when others cross or violate our boundaries, there will be a personal cost if we do not address it.

One domain refers to emotional boundaries which determine how emotionally available you are to other people. We all need support at different times when life hits us with unexpected events, or just help to process the onslaught of micro stressors during the day, sometimes referred to as ‘daily hassles’ in the psychology literature (Falconier et al., 2015).

However, we can’t always be there for people as we often have other priorities to attend to, such as work, domestic, and family responsibilities. As adults, we must take care of ourselves first. Self-care is the foundation of health, while putting others’ needs before our own is a characteristic of codependency that can lead toburnout.

When we don’t maintain healthy emotional boundaries with others, we may feel resentful, guilty, and drained.

As in the 7 Types of Boundaries diagram above, it is perfectly OK to state your limitations to people who make demands of your emotional resources. If they push back against your boundaries or continue to violate them, then this shows your relationship may be off balance, problematic, or even toxic.

If so, then restate your boundary and withdraw calmly. There is no need to over-explain yourself or apologize for setting boundaries, as everyone may say what they do and do not want to do.
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When we are dealing with people who repeatedly cross or violate our personal boundaries, then the whole nature of the relationship may need to change. This can be tricky when the relationship is with somebody we cannot escape, such as co-workers and family members.

The rest of the article focuses on how to set healthy boundaries in specific relationship contexts.

Boundaries in Psychology

How to Set Healthy Boundaries & Build Positive Relationships (5)Boundaries are essential for maintaining psychological wellbeing, especially when providing psychological services to clients as mental health professionals.

There is extensive literature on the harms caused by poor boundaries and boundary violations in clinical relationships with patients and clients (Aiyegbusi & Kelly, 2012; Aravind, Krishnaram & Thasneem, 2012; Davies, 2007).

(Video) Setting Healthy Boundaries

TheAPA’s psychologists’ code of ethicsdoes not make any explicit statements about professional boundaries, although it covers related areas including:

  • multiple relationships (such as offering therapy to a student or friend),
  • sexual intimacies with current therapy clients/patients;
  • sexual intimacies with relatives or significant others of current therapy clients/patients;
  • therapy with former sexual partners; and
  • sexual intimacies with former therapy clients/patients (American Psychological Association, 2017).

Similarly, theBPShas no explicit statement on boundaries in their code of ethics for British psychologists and associated clinical professions, but outlines key principles including confidentiality and the related code of conduct (British Psychological Society, 2021).

Meanwhile, the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) has a detailed position statement on boundaries which begins as follows:

“It is a therapist’s duty to keep their clients psychologically safe. Boundaries are agreed limits or rules which help provide this safety and protect both the client and the therapist. They set a formal structure, purpose and standards for the therapy and the therapeutic relationship” (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, 2020, para. 3).

Health professionals of all kinds occupy a position of trust in their patients’ and clients’ lives. In legal terms, clinical and caring professionals have a fiduciary duty toward their clients as beneficiaries of their services that entails maintaining professional boundaries that protect the client’s interests above their own, at all times (Aravind, Krishnaram & Thasneem, 2012).

Setting boundaries at work

Maintaining healthy boundaries at work has become increasingly difficult with flexible working, remote and hybrid working, and technological progress.

Setting boundaries at work begins during the interview process, where you can establish what kinds of work practices you will accept, especially accessibility during working hours, out-of-hours working, and remote working arrangements.

Career Contessaoffers eight tips for establishing healthy boundaries in the workplace.

  1. Assess your personal boundaries first. These will be determined by your values and priorities. If you are not clear about your boundaries, then it’s much easier for others to cross them or violate them, leading to discomfort, stress, and even resentment.
  2. Communicate directly. Be upfront yet professional. Avoid getting involved in discussing your colleagues with each other. Let people know when you are available and how you handle emails that arrive in your inbox outside work hours.
  3. Create clear structures for your work, especially times for focused work, by letting your colleagues know when you do not want to be disturbed.
  4. Keep your relationships professional. As tempting as it may be to become best friends with colleagues, it can lead to blurred boundaries and problems later on.
  5. Delegate work when appropriate to manage your workload.
  6. Get comfortable saying no.
  7. Take time off.
  8. Use technology to set and maintain work boundaries, by keeping others informed and using shareable project management tools, such as Trello or Asana.

Watch their video below for more detail.

If you find yourself in a workplace where your boundaries are repeatedly crossed or violated despite setting boundaries, then you may be being bullied or harassed. Look at this article onworkplace bullyingon how to manage and address the situation.

Healthy boundaries in friendships

The tips for keeping healthy boundaries in friendships include some points mentioned above, especially understanding your personal limits in terms of time and emotional investment.

These can also change as life events occur that entail a shift in priorities. For example, the time and energy you invest in friendships may change after starting a family. Your children become a priority and friendships may become less important until your children become more independent.

In the TED Talk below, Shasta Nelson describes the three requirements for healthy friendships that she calls ‘frientimacy’ as:

  • Positivity
  • Consistency
  • Vulnerability

Setting boundaries and maintaining them with friends requires mutual trust and respect. Refer to our seven types of boundaries diagram above to consider your boundaries in friendships.

Boundary setting with friends who have crossed or violated them can be difficult, and you may experience pushback. If so, reassert the boundary again and be prepared to take a break from them by ignoring messages and calls for a while if the pushback continues.

Dr. Nicole LePera is a clinical psychologist trained at Cornell University in the US who has her own YouTube channel called the Holistic Psychologist. In the video below, she outlines the three key boundaries she has identified as essential for healthy friendships:

  • Conversational
  • Consumption
  • Energetic

Boundaries in relationships

This section will take a brief look at boundaries in intimate relationships between partners. Many of the tips offered above also apply to intimate partnerships, including marriage. Let’s just take a moment to consider this quote:

“Boundaries are the gateway to healthy relationships.”

(Tawwab, 2021, p. 3)

Romantic relationships often run into trouble when implicit assumptions are made about shared values and relationship goals.

The key to having healthy intimate partnerships is clear communication between partners about mutual needs and expectations. Our worksheets below will provide further guidance.

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This video by FlexTalk discusses how to set and maintain healthy boundaries in marriage, which also applies to any committed intimate partnership.

Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Review

How to Set Healthy Boundaries & Build Positive Relationships (6)‘Setting limits won’t disrupt a healthy relationship’ says the author of this book, Nedra Glover Tawwab, a psychotherapist. (Tawwab, 2021, p. 130).

If you struggle with setting boundaries, then this book is for you. It prioritizes the self-care we need to look after ourselves and others.

The author uses real-life case histories from her therapeutic practice to illustrate a range of problems caused by poor boundaries.

In each chapter, she offers exercises to help readers identify communication skills deficits that lead to poor boundaries and provides helpful tips on how to set and maintain boundaries.

By setting boundaries in relationships, we also discover which relationships are healthy and which are not. As Tawwab explains, if friends, family members, or work colleagues push back against our boundaries by ignoring them, challenging them, or cutting us off, then the relationship was already in deep trouble and needed to end.

However, boundaries are not walls. Tawwab says that behavior that erects walls, such as cutting people off without giving them a right to reply, (sometimes called ghosting) or prolonged silent treatment, is not about setting healthy boundaries, it is emotionally abusive.

Part two is a guide on how to set boundaries in all kinds of relationships, including family, romantic relationships, friendships, at work, and with social media and technology use. This is all followed up by a self-assessment quiz to help you check your progress.

Find the book onAmazon.

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7 Healthy Boundaries Worksheets (PDFs)

To assist your clients in determining their boundaries, and then be comfortable in asserting them, make use of this selection of helpful resources.

1. Visualizing Your Boundaries

The worksheetVisualizing Your Boundarieshelps your client identify life areas needing firmer boundaries.

2. The Personal Boundary Continuum – A Self-Reflection Tool

ThePersonal Boundary Continuumexercise helps your client define their boundaries in different life domains, and understand which areas of life may need more flexibility or firmer boundaries.

3. How to Set Boundaries – Saying No

ThisSaying Noworksheet offers tips on how to set boundaries using the word ‘no’.

4. How to Set Boundaries – Stating What You Want

ThisState What You Wantworksheet offers tips on how to set boundaries by stating what you want.

5. Group Boundary Setting Exercise

ThisGroup Boundary Settingworksheet describes a group exercise that uses body language and speech to set and maintain boundaries.

6. Dealing With Boundary Violations

Dealing With Boundary Violationspresents eight steps for dealing with boundary violations, especially when we are setting new boundaries in difficult situations.

7. Setting Internal Boundaries

TheSetting Internal Boundariesworksheet helps you set internal boundaries by committing to the behavior you want to embrace (e.g., taking regular exercise, keeping a journal) and avoiding behavior that leaves you feeling uncomfortable (e.g., getting drunk with friends, yelling at your partner).

Positive Relationship Resources has several other relationship articles with resources you may find useful. Click on the links below for more.

  • Building Healthy Relationships: Helpful Worksheets
  • The Importance of Positive Relationships in the Workplace
  • Conflict Resolution Strategies for the Workplace
  • Emotional Intelligence in Relationships (+Activities for Couples)

A Take-Home Message

Setting healthy boundaries is an essential life skill and an important self-care practice. Healthy boundaries create healthy relationships.

While someone who’s not used to setting boundaries might feel guilty or selfish when they first start, setting boundaries is necessary for mental health and wellbeing.

Appropriate boundaries can look very different depending on the setting, but it’s important to set them in all areas of life where we interact with others.

Finally, while setting boundaries is crucial, it is just as important to respect others’ boundaries, including parents, children, romantic partners, managers, coworkers, and anyone else we interact with.

We hope you enjoyed reading this article. Don’t forget todownload our three Positive Relationships Exercises for free.


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How do you set boundaries and build better relationships? ›

Here are six tips for setting healthy boundaries in your relationship:
  1. Know That Boundaries Are Healthy for Your Relationship. ...
  2. Be Honest About What You Need. ...
  3. Listen to What Your Partner Needs. ...
  4. Designate When You Need Space. ...
  5. Establish How Comfortable You Are In the Scope of COVID-19. ...
  6. Communicate With Respect.
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How do you set boundaries in a positive way? ›

How to set and maintain good boundaries
  1. Reflect on the reasons for your boundaries. ...
  2. Start with a few boundaries. ...
  3. Consider setting boundaries early on. ...
  4. Try to be consistent with your boundaries. ...
  5. Carve out time for yourself. ...
  6. Don't be afraid to include extra boundaries. ...
  7. Set healthy boundaries on social media.
Jun 3, 2021

What are the 3 boundaries you must set in every relationship? ›

There are three main types of Boundaries in relationships: physical, intellectual, and emotional. Most of us are familiar with physical boundaries, but other kinds of boundaries are also crucial.

How do you set boundaries with examples? ›

Some examples of personal boundaries might be:
  1. I'm cool with following each other on social media, but not with sharing passwords.
  2. I'm comfortable kissing and holding hands, but not in public.
  3. I'm okay with regularly texting, but I don't want to text multiple times in an hour.

What are the 4 qualities of a healthy relationship? ›

Healthy relationships involve honesty, trust, respect and open communication between partners and they take effort and compromise from both people.

What are the 7 types of boundaries? ›

7 Types of Boundaries You May Need
  • What boundaries do you need? ...
  • 1) Physical Boundaries. ...
  • 2) Sexual Boundaries. ...
  • 3) Emotional or Mental Boundaries. ...
  • 4) Spiritual or Religious Boundaries. ...
  • 5) Financial and Material Boundaries. ...
  • 6) Time Boundaries. ...
  • 7) Non-Negotiable Boundaries.
Apr 23, 2020

What are three healthy boundaries? ›

Healthy Boundaries
  • Being able to say, "no," and accept when someone else says, "no"
  • Being able to clearly communicate both wants and needs.
  • Honoring and respecting their own needs and the needs of others.
  • Respecting others' values, beliefs, and opinions, even if they are different from one's own.
Jan 24, 2022

What is the definition of healthy boundaries in a relationship? ›

Provided by Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships.

Why is it important to set boundaries? ›

Setting boundaries is a form of self-care. It helps to create a clear guideline/rule/limits of how you would like to be treated. They let others know what is and what is not okay/acceptable. It honors our needs and wants so that we feel respected and safe.

How do you stand up for yourself and set boundaries? ›

This is not always easy or straightforward but some general tips apply:
  1. Stay true to your values.
  2. Know you have the same right as others to be your own person.
  3. Refuse to be a doormat or live as a victim.
  4. Stand your ground even if it is met with disapproval.
  5. Face your fears and step out of your comfort zone.
Sep 3, 2017

What is the golden rule of boundaries? ›

How to Set Boundaries and Not Feel Guilty. The Golden Rule. Treat others the way you want to be treated. It's one of those basic human philosophies.

What are 3 ways to set personal boundaries? ›

5 Effective Ways to Set Healthy Boundaries
  • Visualize and Name Your Limits.
  • Openly Communicate Your Boundaries.
  • Reiterate and Uphold Your Boundaries.
  • Don't Be Afraid to Say No.
  • Take Time for Yourself.
  • How Much Time You Spend Together.
  • Setting Physical and Sexual Boundaries.
  • Respecting Emotional Boundaries.

How do you set boundaries without ruining a relationship? ›

To create healthy boundaries, you need to:
  1. Know why boundaries are good.
  2. Know the types of boundaries you can have.
  3. Believe in your personal rights.
  4. Learn the skills to create and communicate boundaries.
  5. Remove your barriers to creating boundaries.
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How do you teach relationship boundaries? ›

You can help your child set boundaries by talking with them about their feelings and what others might be feeling. This helps them develop empathy and understand how boundaries can be helpful. You can also teach your child to advocate for themselves by modeling your own boundaries.

What are 3 examples of natural boundaries? ›

Rivers, mountain ranges, oceans, and deserts can all serve as physical boundaries.

What are the three most important boundaries that every person deals with? ›

These boundaries typically fall into a few specific categories: emotional (protecting our own emotional well-being) physical (protecting our physical space) sexual (protecting our needs and safety sexually)

What is an example of a real boundary? ›

Real boundaries are those boundaries that completely separate the system from its surroundings. For example Rice in a bowl, milk in a glass.

What are the 3 C's of a healthy relationship? ›

Relationship dynamics will go up and down based on communication, compromise and commitment, the 3C's.

What are the 5 A's of a healthy relationship? ›

One way to improve your relationship with your significant other is to set an intention to give each other on a consistent basis “The Five A's of Love: Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection, and Allowing.” The Five A's concept is from the book How To Be An Adult in Relationships – Five Keys to Mindful Loving ...

What are the three C's of building a healthy relationship? ›

A strong and healthy relationship is built on the three C's: Communication, Compromise and Commitment. Think about how to use communication to make your partner feel needed, desired and appreciated.

How do I know my boundaries? ›

How to Figure Out Your Boundaries
  1. Tune into your emotions. According to Howes, the strongest indicator of our boundaries is our emotions. ...
  2. Tune into your thoughts. ...
  3. Ask others. ...
  4. Get clear on your values.

What are the basic boundaries? ›

Physical boundaries include your needs for personal space, your comfort with touch, and your physical needs like needing to rest, eat food, and drink water. It is OK to let people know that you don't want to be touched or that you need more space. It is also OK to say that you are hungry or that you need to rest.

What are the 4 steps to setting healthy boundaries? ›

A 4-Step Process For Setting And Maintaining Boundaries
  • Step 1: Identifying areas where you need personal boundaries. ...
  • Step 2: Establishing boundaries that are clear and enforceable. ...
  • Step 3: Communicating your boundaries. ...
  • Step 4: Enforcing your boundaries.
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What is a key component in healthy boundaries? ›

The three components of healthy boundaries are: Self-Knowledge. Self-Compassion. Self-Acceptance.

Why do I struggle to set boundaries? ›

One of the most common reasons for not setting boundaries is a fear of conflict. You dont want to upset or anger people, so you sacrifice your own needs and wants to keep the peace. Its tempting to return to passivity when others dont like your boundaries.

How do you set healthy boundaries in an unhealthy relationship? ›

And remember, some toxic people thrive on breaking the very boundaries that you're trying to keep intact.
  1. Identify your core values. ...
  2. Stay calm, and communicate your boundaries. ...
  3. Limit the time you spend with them. ...
  4. Assess your social media. ...
  5. Don't expect change right away.
Jan 31, 2020

Why is it important to set boundaries ahead of time in a relationship? ›

The Importance Of Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries create trust and build healthy relationships. Even when some people don't like what you do, they will likely still respect you for standing up for what you believe in. Boundaries also generate safety in relationships.

What happens when you don't set boundaries? ›

If you don't set healthy boundaries, you are likely to constantly be at the mercy of others. You allow others to tell you how to think, act, and feel. It also means you tend to spend your time and energy doing what others want you to do, over what you deep down want to do.

What to expect when setting boundaries? ›

Boundary Testing, Protests, Tantrums, and Gaslighting

You can expect something similar from the adults in your life when you start the boundary setting process. You may be told that you are being unfair, you may see yelling and crying, and you might even get the silent treatment.

What boundaries do I need to set for myself? ›

Examples of boundaries you may need
  • Sticking to your budget.
  • Limiting yourself to one hour of television per day.
  • No screens (television, phone) in your bedroom.
  • Not participating in gossip or talking about someone behind their back.
  • Not working past 7 p.m.
  • Not answering work emails on the weekends.
Aug 5, 2019

How do you stand up for yourself without being confrontational? ›

8 ways to speak up for yourself
  1. Understand that saying no can be a good thing. ...
  2. Emulate words with your body's posture. ...
  3. Stay true to your words. ...
  4. Practice when you can. ...
  5. Consider how you could be giving too much. ...
  6. Know when to leave. ...
  7. Take your time with your response. ...
  8. Remind yourself that you deserve respect.
Apr 5, 2022

How do you set boundaries with someone with did? ›

Don't be afraid to let others know your boundaries. You don't have to talk about your DID if you are not comfortable doing so. You can tell people which things are okay and which are not okay, whether it be specific physical interactions or certain words or topics of conversation.

What are rules and boundaries examples? ›

Examples of Rules/Boundaries
  • we don't have sex with other people.
  • we don't have sex with people we're friends with.
  • we don't go on more than one date per week with secondary/other partners.
  • we don't talk to other partners about our relationship challenges.
Jan 17, 2023

Why are boundaries important in mental health? ›

Setting and maintaining boundaries will help you conserve your emotional energy and can put you in a better mental state. With emotional and physical boundaries, you will develop autonomy and independence. Maintaining your assertiveness about your boundaries will also help bolster your self-esteem.

What are the two main types of personal boundaries? ›

Let's jump into each one:
  • Physical boundaries would be the types of boundaries you set regarding your body, your touch, your space, what you eat and drink, and when you're active and resting. ...
  • Emotional boundaries are the types of boundaries you set regarding what you're comfortable sharing emotionally with others.
Mar 8, 2021

How do you set boundaries with emotionally draining friends? ›

What is the best way to set boundaries?
  1. Take a step back. Taking a step back can help you to assess how you are feeling right now. ...
  2. Be direct. ...
  3. Be honest with yourself. ...
  4. Accept your feelings. ...
  5. Make self-care your priority. ...
  6. Stay strong.
Nov 26, 2022

How do you set boundaries with toxic friends? ›

5 Tips For Setting Boundaries With a Toxic Friend
  1. Explain How You're Feeling. The first step to setting a boundary is explaining what exactly it is you're feeling or experiencing to your friend. ...
  2. Create a Clear Boundary. ...
  3. Set Achievable Expectations. ...
  4. Allow for Growth Mistakes. ...
  5. Frequently Audit The Friendship.

How do you set boundaries without cutting people off? ›

Healthy Boundaries in Difficult Relationships Without Cutting People Out of Your Life
  1. Make Self-Care A Priority. Self-care means giving yourself permission to listen to how you feel. ...
  2. Identify Your Limitations. ...
  3. Learn How to Say No. ...
  4. Seek Support. ...
  5. In the End.
Jan 7, 2021

What are 5 healthy boundaries? ›

5 Types Of Boundaries For Your Relationship
  • Physical Boundaries. Physical boundaries refer to your body, privacy, and personal space. ...
  • Emotional Boundaries. In order to establish emotional boundaries, you need to be in touch with your feelings. ...
  • Sexual Boundaries. ...
  • Intellectual Boundaries. ...
  • Financial Boundaries.

How do you set boundaries in a toxic relationship? ›

4 tips to set boundaries and maintain them with toxic people
  1. Know your limits. We should not let people push past us. ...
  2. Communicate boundaries clearly and assertively. ...
  3. Don't make excuses for their behaviour. ...
  4. Be willing to walk away from the relationship.
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